Just tell me why

| 4 June , 2009 | 2 Replies

Some days I love what I do more than others.  Why would that be I hear you ask?  Well some days are just plain boring and uninspiring and others, well I get to be inspired and meet the most amazing people you could ever want to meet.  And Melinda Hutchings is one of those people.

I met Mindi (as her friends call her) last year at an Eating Disorders Foundation charity event, she was with one of my favourite female journo’s that I religiously read her columns for years and finally got to meet, Jacinta Tynan.  Over the past few months, Mindi and I reconnected again on twitter and over cupcakes and hot chocolate and I am truly honoured to have her in my sphere of amazing people who inspire me and was even more honoured to attend her THIRD book launch this week with the likes of Jacinta, Tara Moss, Rachel Oakes-Ash and Chris Gibson who each shared their self image battles and experiences in a very heart-felt way.

If we stop to think, we will find that we tend to define ourselves externally and not internally; that women are our own worst enemies and the hardest on our own gender.  I was appalled to discover that the beautiful Jacinta Tynan, Sky TV Newsreader and author, who is in her late 30’s and is glowing with her first pregnancy, gets emails from women commenting about her looks, her boobs, her age, her hair, what she’s wearing – how is that constructive and supportive?  And we do it all the time, tell me you don’t ‘mentally’ judge a woman when she walks into a room, look her up and down at what she’s wearing, how she looks.  We all do it at one time or another if not all the time and we don’t realise it.  Why is that?  It’s mean.  Do we do it to make ourselves feel better?  This topic is complex but as a first step I think addressing this aspect of being a female is something that we need to conquer.


Melinda’s new book, Why Can’t I look the Way I Want? is packed full of information and case studies which tackle everything from dieting and anxieties around food to physical and emotional rehabilitation and re-establishing relationships. In amongst expert advice, helpful checklists, and dozens of practical tips, you will also find chapters on:

  • Past sufferers who have battled anorexia, bulimia and exercise bulimia
  • The growing male eating disorder, bigorexia
  • Helping someone you love
  • Recognising early warning signs
  • Treatment Options
  • How to find help
  • What you can look forward to at the other side

Throughout the book Melinda has drawn on her own experience and that of fellow sufferers to not only tell what having an eating disorder is really like but also to show that it is possible to break its deadly grip, recover and live a healthy and satisfying life. (Allen & Unwin)

We all search to find our calling in life and Mindi has found hers, she is a shining light to those that are suffering an eating disorder because she has been through it, but we also need to be our own shining lights and not be so hard on ourselves and each other.  This book will show sufferers (both male and female) that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and that they can go on to achieve amazing things with their lives too.  If you know anyone suffering an eating disorder, get them this book.

Her book is available now, RRP$27.99 and you can connect with Melinda on her blog.

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  1. Naomi says:

    I’ve been battling many types of ED’s for 20+ years now (since I was 8) mainly because my parents either ignored it or didn’t realise. It just wasn’t heard of when I was in primary school & by the time I hit high school, I was too good at hiding it.

    It is wonderful that it is no longer being hidden in the media and great people like Melinda are writing books and getting the word out.

    Fat or thin, a person can have an eating disorder, and that is something people are yet to learn.

  2. Erica says:

    Alas, we are as hard on ourselves as we are on each other: in fact, the harder a woman is on herself, the more she reflects that in her perceptions. Just look at Anna Wintour: she embodies the Vogue ethos of slim, easy perfection and control, thereby rendering her perceptions of any woman who doesn’t fit the mould as inadequate. Cue Oprah being told to shed a few kilos to appear on Ms. Wintour’s cover. The healthier our self-image, the more likely we are to be less judgmental about other women and accept them, and ourselves, just as we are. No Photoshop necessary. Thanks for the insight, Sassy. I’ll be reading Melinda’s book this weekend.

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